A husband and wife team bumped into some really hard times. The husband was overwhelmed and wasn't sure if he had what it took to be the family head any longer. So time went by and one day the husband said to the wife, "I don't know if I want to work this out." A couple of days later, the wife called the husband at work and said that today was the day. Today he must pack his bags and move out. That was the day that shook the husband and he was forced to make a decision. Knowing that he wanted to do right, the husband decided to take action. He set up marriage enrichment courses at the church, he took days off of work to attend the sessions, gave his wife a list of action items that he was willing to take to keep the marriage and changed his attitude immediately.
When I heard this true story (which was told to me in more detail), I was so moved.
Here are a few of my initial thoughts:
So it IS possible?! There are men out there who don't give up!
I guess that's the 50% right?
But considering all the relationship bad news that's surrounding me, why are there are so many breakups when it's clear that it can be worked out?
What's different today?
Why don't men reach out to other men who have made it?
I guess it's just not in the men (or women) of today.
Thinking back to my exes - they were too young to know to do this though.
Actions like that comes with maturity.
Wow! This husband called out for spiritual guidance, vowed to make a change in his heart, had action items AND took off from work!?
Now you know he's serious when he takes off!
Work is a man's sanctuary.
He was completely selfless - devoted to their welfare and not his own.
Women, for the most part, are quick to 'try and work it out'.
With their hearts on their sleeves, they fight.
This husband did what he was supposed to do though!
He took a vow.
That was his obligation.
Would he have stepped up if his wife never told him to leave?
Doubt it.
You teach people how they should treat you.
She taught him that he couldn't play.
If she let her husband stay without an answer, would he have respected her?
Might he have cheated on her while still in the house?
She was strong.
Women usually hold on when they know they shouldn't.
But she stopped it right away.
That's admirable.
I'm still in shock.
He seriously did whatever he had to do.
The man took off from work!
That's awesome!
There's a ray of hope ladies and gentleman!
2 comments:
i just think that it goes both ways...men and women in our generation give up
now let's exclude the 99 to 1 fake folk to real folk ratio and just deal with the real, not the liars and the cheats or the fakers and the creeps...
there are both good men and good women out here...but like i said before, we have all been told focus on education and work, get yours, don't worry about no man, don't worry about no woman...
so when we do get into a relationship, we don't know how to really handle the pressures or the stress of the give and take..
sometimes we give too much sometimes we take too much
sometimes its just a mess...
everyone can hold on at times when they shouldn't...
but i think you said the most powerful thing is in showing someone how to treat you, the key is, staying consistant once you have shown them the first time...
GRRREAT POST!! I JUST blogged about something like this.
Thanks so much for sharing and giving me hope!
Stay blessed.
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