It's Not About Honesty. It's About Choices.

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We’ve been together for a little more than a year. What shocks me is that he hasn't changed. From the day I met him until today, he's still a truly divine person. Respectful, compassionate, giving, intelligent, spiritual… What I like most is that he’s a true man's man. He handles everything with dedication and care, including me. His sense of responsibility is refreshing. He always has everything under control and I've never felt more safe. I enjoy his maturity. I would be remiss not to add that he constantly seems to move mountains for me. Doing things I would never expect or ask for. He's truly a dream. But, I don't love him.

I met him about 5 months ago. We should have never had that conversation because that’s when I fell in love. He’s not like the other guys. In fact, I don’t think people actually know him like I do. When we talk, he’s different. The griminess melts away when we’re together. He just comes across wrong. It just takes the right person to reach it. He truly does have a good heart. I try to explain the warmth of his soul, but it really doesn’t matter anymore. No one has to understand it. No one but my man.

So... how do you tell your man that you’re in love with someone else?






If I could forget him I would. Please believe me. I know that I should throw the towel in, but baby it’s not that easy. You treated me so much better than him and if I was sane there would be no competition, but I’m in love with someone else. And I’m so sorry. I’m in love with another man. I know it ain’t right. You should go and find someone else who could treat you right. Give you the world. Someone who understands the man you are because baby you shine so bright and I would just dim your star. A girl who would treat you like you treat them. Boy I know there’s plenty women who would love to have a man like you but I’m in love with someone else. I’m so sorry baby.

In one word, this song is... honest. What I admire about Jazmine Sullivan’s story is that the woman in the lyrics decided to live her truth and take her freedom. At this point, it doesn't matter who the better guy is. Whether he treats her like a queen or a subject is irrelevant. Her heart belonged to someone else and she chose to follow it. Now, it seems like we're always admonished to follow our hearts, but I'm truly not feeling that advice. I’ve learned better. The heart is the most treacherous organ you have. When your heart screams one thing, but your mind says another, the best thing to do is follow your mind. Wisdom rules over emotion anyday. In the case of this story, you can DEFINITELY help who you fall in love with. You choose to spend time getting to know another. You choose to dedicate energy and attention to that person. Yes, attractions are real, however, it is well within a person's power to decide whether they will pursue that attraction or not. You always have a choice. Everyone stands at the fork in the road and has a choice. When Jazmine Sullivan's character decided to stare in the eyes of the "other man", she made her choice. So how do you get to the point where you ask yourself 'how do I tell my man that I'm in love with someone else?' You put yourself there. There's absolutely no one to blame but yourself.

Do you agree?